It is totally normal and we do it every day, more or less by choice: coming across to different people. Usually human is not for fighting lonely. People need social structures and closeness, emotional bond, exchange, …
I considered this. One point is that we do not meet anyone with the same amount of sympathy. Some people seem to be difficult to handle. Some people don’t fit into our imagination of that one “perfect person”. And still, it’s my opinion that even these kinds of different people enrich our lives. What is the benefit for me when my counterpart always tells me my own view? That’s not only boring but also ineffective. The exchange between people, quite different, from different cultures, different groups, societies, …
For that, I maybe sometimes need to step out of my comfort zone. Furthermore, I possibly need to see myself from a different view, analyze myself, to find out, what I avoid just not to be challenged or to get hurt. Where I as soon as possible escape the difficult discussion, because it is exhausting or because it could be possible that I could rub somebody up the wrong way or I am just afraid that the attitude or the other’s opinion I always was against, maybe not that wrong.
What do I have to lose, when I engage with someone? When I tear down the old walls, not to lose all of my own ideal concepts but to broaden my horizon and scrutinize my own thoughts.